I hope you are familiar with the theory of cyclic development of Pamela Levin. If not, I can briefly explain. The concept suggests that each person develops, passing certain stages. And after all these stages of development people are starting to take the same steps again, but on a different level. Similar to a spiral movement.

But still, this same theory says that every important event in our lives, starts a new “branch” of the main spiral, which will carry us through the same stages, but in the area in which these changes occurred.

Probably, it will be easier to explain with an example. Imagine a twenty-five year girl and her moving up the spiral of development – she fulfills mastered skills and acquire new ones, tests some regulations, revises her place in society and so on. And then suddenly, the girl decides to get married. And despite her overall consistency, in the family area she becomes a baby again. For a while she has to learn to trust her husband, to understand what it means to be a wife … or just to be a part if her new family. And in this area of her development she will repeat all baby steps, objects, features and crises.

Shortly speaking, until recently, I knew about this theory, but I never thought about its application to my own live. But couple weeks ago I noticed how accurate this concept is about timing of my mood-changing after moving to another country.

Let’s start with the fact that had to relocate really quckly and there was no time to get mentally prepared for us. But precisely because of this haste, I did not quit my job. I decided to work distantly on the same position. Because of this I had to fly back and forth and to spend every two weeks in the different country. I hadn’t been living here nor there. Kind of a period of uncertainty. And it lasted … 9 months! Imagine 38 weeks somewhere in between. Such an obvious analogy with the prenatal stage.

During my 6 months “infancy” in a new place I just lived here. Sometimes wanted to do something, but I did not want so much that I decided to leave myself in peace and enjoy the new experience of a leisurely life.

And now, after these months, I myself (without a sense of guilt and any extra effort) want to do something. And I started doing something. And even if not all of what I do is absolutely adequate to our needs, I enjoy trying many different things. And I really do this with a sincere pleasure.

So I’m resigned to the fact that everything must take its course. So I get pleasure from the point at which am now.

And the idea that correct and timely re-passing of all stages in adults can correct the negative experience of childhood warms me. So I not only enjoy the process, but also treat irregularities of my consciousness.

So I decided to share with you my joyful discovery.

If you want to know more about for Pamela Levin stages of development, read her books or visit my training on children’s development.